Once you’ve learned and mastered the basic principles of Boudoir Dance it’s time to let go.  The beautiful thing about mastering the wave and learning the moves is that you have created a safe and structured space for your body.  Now you are ready to fly!!

When we were kids ( I observe this in my own girls) we played without a bunch of rules.  Playing was ‘freestyle’(unless you had a bossy sister).  We made it up as we went along.  We weren’t afraid of sounding stupid because we knew we were playing and thus creating our own little reality right in that very moment. No boundaries, no rules. Kids just know how to play by instinct.   Trying to follow all the rules makes it cerebral and sucks the joy right out of our playful spirits. Rules are for learning, playing is for letting go and being in the moment.

You’ll know your have let go and are on the way to the zone when your movements start to evolve, organically, beyond recognition, and to live and breath a life of their own.  You will be surprised!

Dancing gives us an amazing opportunity to play again!  Just play.  I really relish the rush of an accomplishment or the mastering of a new move, but the greatest moments of joy I’ve had while pole dancing were had in the moment.

As Prince once said, “Make the rules, then break ‘em all ’cause you are the best”…..